Recently my husband and I found out we were expecting our fourth child. It came as a bit of shock, since our youngest wasn't a year yet. We hadn't planned it; discussed it yes, but planned it no. Since becoming pregnant this last time, I've found the reaction a little perplexing. We've heard everything...
"Don't you know what causes that?"
"Are you crazy?"
"How can you afford that?"
While I'm sure many say that in jest, some really think we are crazy and some are perhaps worried we are mooching off their tax dollars; both of these assumptions are false. The reason these reactions have been so bothersome to me is because so many of those we are sharing the news with are Christians that would undoubtedly say they are pro-life. So that got me to thinking...are you really pro-life when good godly couples continue to have children and you question their sanity or their means to support their family? Or are you just anti-abortion?
My husband and I began discussing this and thought about the reactions you hear with pregnancy:
The first undoubtedly brings joy and everyone says, "Oh you two will make such wonderful parents!"
With the second, "Now you're family is complete! Just a perfect little family is what you are!"
If you dare to go beyond the norm, you'll hear, "Really? Ok, well, that's nice. You're finished right?"
And for the fourth...well, you already know that answer at this point. So why does this confuse me so much, well, because truly none of these reactions are biblical. If you look at what God has to say about children, how could even think that way?
Psalm 127:3-5 "Lo, children are an heritage of the the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are the children of thy youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them; they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate." (KJV)
God says this is my inheritance! I'm only here once and I'm going to take everything He gives me and soak it up. I'm not crazy, I'm just blessed. We each have rewards and blessings and none of them are the same. I'm not going to grumble and complain and wonder how I'll feed these children, because my God shall supply ALL my needs according to His riches in glory (Philippians 4:19)! So thank you Jesus for this blessing and thank you for the provision you will make sure my family attains because of your blessings.
While we may not be perfect parents, we are trying our best to make sure these four arrows that You've placed in our quiver (which in the past held 7 or 8) this far will land on target. And I'm not ashamed that we didn't stop at two because we weren't the perfectly complete little family everyone said we were. I'm so grateful we listened to You and not everyone around us. Our children are a declaration of Your blessings on us!
|Can't wait to be blessed with you #4!|
|My 3 amigos!|